I may or may not follow below opinions in my personal life. I have designed and developed my own set of rules that I live by. This space is filled with content where I think and explore my thoughts. I am making an effort to give space to my thoughts to express themselves. I lend my ears to them and I bring their stories to life by putting them into words.
T#18
The existence of class distinctions between the wealthy and poor is imperative. During my childhood, I was raised in an environment where financial resources were scarce, making life difficult. On certain occasions, if I asked my father to buy a pack of chips, he would reprimand me. This was not because he did not like me, but because he was fully aware of the hard work required to earn a penny. As a child, such situations made me unhappy. Nonetheless, it did not take long before I realized the importance of money. At one point, I had an epiphany that having financial resources can resolve most of my life’s issues, including fulfilling my desires to indulge in whatever I want. My desires were on buying a beverage from Starbucks or relishing an extravagant meal at a high-end restaurant. These desires were based on my limited exposure to my surroundings, what caused my unhappiness as a child. Once I earned the money required to fulfill them, I realized that the desire had lost its appeal. This is not ironic but rather a natural consequence of growth and changes in my environment, exposure to people, thoughts, and new desires. As I grew older, my aspirations expanded, and the desire to have a Starbucks coffee or an expensive meal became trivial/insignificant.
Do I regret losing these desires? Certainly not! These desires helped shape the person I am today, and they evoked a passion within me that I continue to enjoy. I have become someone who values the process more than the result. Of course I am concerned about the outcome, but I place greater emphasis on the journey. These experiences that occurred during my childhood had a positive impact on my personality and helped me develop certain values that are deeply ingrained in who I am today. I am grateful for how they have helped me grow because it could have easily gone the other way around, I was a child!
If there were no class distinctions, there would be no Starbucks or expensive restaurants. In an environment where there is no competition or a sense of not deserving things, motivation to live can dwindle. Without any incentive for working hard or competing, individuals can become lazy. Although there are other ways to motivate people, class differences can sometimes serve as a positive force.
P.S: Money can solve a lot of issues. it may not be ALL of the issue but a lot of them. except that a lot of the issues make up 99% of the issues.
T#17
To have empathy means, you have the ability to feel the feelings/emotions of the other person in the same exact way as they experience it. However, this is not straightforward, you think you are empathetic but in reality you are just in touch with your emotions.
To actually employ empathy with a person, you need to first understand their value system. what are their rights and wrongs and how they operate in life. which majority of the time may not align with yours, then it is very natural to become defensive as they dont align with your thinking.
To elaborate, your value system is your blue print that is developed from your childhood through your adulthood. your experiences, your interaction with people, outside environments and hundred other things influence your blue print, which is unique in itself. your decisions are largely dependent on this blue print, from whether you’re inclined to break or adhere to rules to whether you choose to be kind or rude with your life.
Given the high likelihood of misalignment between our respective blueprints, you must understand their value system based off of the blue print, as it exists. it will then allow you to enter their spirit and perspective precisely in the moment you would normally turn defensive.
Then even the deepest private persons can be pulled out of their shell in this way, because such attention is so rare.
T#16
Imagine two individuals, Person A and Person B. Person A has received extensive training in money management, while Person B has no apparent background in finance. At this point, you have no information about whether Person A has a track record of investment gains or losses, and likewise, you are unaware of any financial dealings by Person B.
Now, let’s assume you have a significant sum of money and you are in need of a trustworthy fiduciary to manage your assets. In an ideal scenario, most people would instinctively choose Person A over Person B. The reason for this choice seems evident: Person A’s substantial training in money management would likely make them the more logical choice.
However, here’s the twist: What if I were to tell you that Person A hasn’t actually undergone any meaningful training in money management? I intentionally added the descriptor “significant training in money management” to illustrate a psychological phenomenon known as the “halo effect.” Keep in mind that, initially, you had no knowledge of the investment track records of either Person A or Person B. If we assume that both individuals have no prior investment experience, your choice between them would be essentially a coin toss.
While this story is to demonstrates halo affect, the lesson here is that you can leverage the halo effect to establish value with someone you wish to influence.
For instance, when a renowned philosopher speaks, you are more likely to nod in agreement without much thought. Your mind is predisposed to align with their viewpoint because these individuals already hold a certain level of value or credibility in your perception.
Likewise, when you desire others to take your words seriously or pay undivided attention to you, it often helps to have some inherent value in their eyes. When you lack this inherent value, you can create it by strategically employing the halo effect.
Some examples, adding phrases, “In my decade worth of experience in this issue..” or “When I worked closely with so and so expert. we found…”, before you verbalize your thoughts.
T#15
Few tactics to use in any business deal negotiations. Become a person who is so good at negotiating that people will give you what you want. use it at work, relationships, wherever you see fit.
- Nail down what people need before you negotiate with them
Set yourself up for success by doing your research. when you can’t find out on your own what someone wants, you just ask. its a simple thing to do but most of them don’t do it, instead what most people do is assume that the person we are negotiating with wants what they would if they were in their shoes. understand what the other person values instead of guessing what they would want. take the time to find out for sure.
lets say you want more money. instead of guessing what your employer wants and silently working at those assumptions. setup a meeting with your boss and let them know that you are interested in a raise. and then ask them what is reasonable time frame to earn raise and what would you have to do to earn it. you can also start by asking what is reasonable time frame to get raise and then what you have to do to earn it faster than that. now you have clear targets to hit and when you hit. you will be in a great place to negotiate for more money.
- use exploding offers to create panic or FOMO in the other person. these are now or never traps.
this is based on the idea that when you give people “enough” time to think over your offer. they are likely go out looking for options especially when your offer is not in their locus. so you want to limit the other persons focus and make them think, “get what you want or miss out and regret it forever”
this style is practiced widely at work or relationships and it is effective however this is also very aggressive tactic. so it has cost to it. the other person may end up resenting you for putting time pressure on them. as tempting as it is, it is better to avoid most of the times unless it is a necessity. you may miss out on yeses from the people who would have agreed if they weren’t under the time pressure and also you may scare good people because of the aggressive style.
- be willing to walk away from the table
be willing to kill the only option and bet on yourself to find a better option, if you see any last minute changes in the deal. alternatively, always have options at your stake before you go into negotiations or if you are surprised, then step back and evaluate your options.
- win and win by giving as little as possible
T#14
Leverage insights from zodiac signs and Personality tests.
well let me start with this, I don’t believe in forecast of an individual’s future just based on the month in which they were born but I do believe that people who are born in the given month, majority of them, will share a few personality traits. if you list all the possible personality traits of a zodiac sign, then I will only rely on these traits at fifty percent of its face value. this is because people will change over time based on the environments they grow in. Even fifty percent is a good percentage to know the basic social behaviour of an individual. I also don’t believe in compatibility of two signs.
I don’t use the these signs in the conventional way of using it. For instance, I ask three questions and try to figure out where you belong and as you keep responding positively to my intuitions, I will put you in that category. In other words, you may be one sign, but from your responses to my questions, I might put you under another sign.
Zodiac/sun signs are the quickest way to at least get a sense of how the person conducts himself in social situations. You will get a sense of how to interact with this person. are they Introverts, Extroverts, Bossy, IDGAF’s, Fierce, Artistic, Romantic, Free Birds, Emotional, Condescending, Mean, StraightForward, Logical, Analytical, Stereotypical, Atypical, Grounded, Sexual, Driven, Goal Oriented and many many more.
Based on your intentions on your current goals in that situation, you can choose how to conduct yourself. This is a very powerful tool in the world of influence. I am referring to the influence that is healthy. For instance, speaking hypothetically, you are in a situation where you ran into an individual who is in power. maybe you are looking to fund your business and the person is a business magnate with some political influence. you have to get their attention in the shortest possible time. lets also assume that, this person cares more about human relations and dynamics than the idea of your company itself. if you are aware of their personality traits, at least based on sun signs, you know exactly what buttons to push. you are more likely to get his attention based on their virtue and nature of what he values. how much ever self esteem, confident, fierce of a character you are, you have to tune your character for such situations. in the process, you may have to appease the person in power. you don’t have to surrender to their social status, but carefully calibrate and evaluate the right actions. in such situation, if you know exactly or at least have a sense on what the individual likes or dislikes or what makes them to look at you in a positive dimension, you are more likely to close the deal.
you can get someones attention if they are actively looking for your business idea. since we are talking about a specific topic, I am trying to make it relevant to this context.
T#13
T#12
When religious individuals experience stress, they often turn to prayer and have faith that God will resolve their problems. Afterwards, they engage in relaxing activities and aim to maintain a positive mental state, at least they will try and succeed. Typically, religious individuals tend to be emotionally-driven.
rational and logical individuals who lack faith in God often try to actively address their stress. so they take themselves into a state where they are caught up in a pensive mood. it only adds to their stress causing mental agitation and further letting their own rational brain to evade the solution to their problem.
In my opinion, both the approaches to dealing with the situation is incorrect, as there are consequences for both of them.
To make thoughtful decision you have to have your mind at peace. Those who manage to be at peace but fail to take an action will not see their expected outcome.
In the above scenario, attaining a peaceful state of mind is relatively easy – you just need a good yoga teacher to help you with meditation or a psychologist but attaining the behavior to take actions is not as simple as changing the state of mind. so you know who would be successful, relatively, in difficult situations.
the gist is, you have to balance it out.
P.S: This is also why we need religious and non-religious people in this world. they balance it out on a bigger scale.
T#11
There is nothing right or wrong in this world. Those are the tenets that one has entrenched and inveterate by their freedom per se.
Your wrongs might be someone else’s rights; Someone else’s wrongs might be your rights.
The minute you try to judge an individual, it only insinuates that you have a yen for the person to live by your rules of Rights and Wrongs, forgetting the fact that the person also has his/her freedom to do what they wish to do.
Withal, it implicates as you are displeased for not having control over that person’s life forbye forgetting the fact that you have no power or right to do it.
Respect every individual’s freedom otherwise you are just not a wise person to go bundle on and revel in your freedom.
T#10
When you pass away, your entire persona will be perceived differently. An immediate aura of reverence will envelop you, and individuals will recollect their criticisms of you and past disputes with a sense of remorse and regret. They will yearn for your presence, which will never again be among them.
However, it is not necessary to await death to experience this transformation. By completely isolating yourself for a period of time, you can create a type of symbolic death. Upon your return, it will seem as though you have come back from the dead – an atmosphere of revival will surround you, and people will be grateful for your reappearance.
T#9
In this world, there exists no absolute right or wrong. Those are the tenets that one has entrenched and inveterate by their freedom per se.
Your wrongs might be someone else’s rights; Someone else’s wrongs might be your rights.
The minute you try to judge an individual, it only insinuates that you have a yen for the person to live by your rules of Rights and Wrongs, forgetting the fact that the person also has their freedom to do what they wish to do.
Furthermore, this shows a discontentment with your lack of control over that person’s life, forbye forgetting the reality that you possess neither the authority nor the entitlement to exert such control.
Respect every individual’s freedom otherwise you are just not a wise person to go bundle on and revel in your freedom.
T#8
Morality, at its core, is not just about avoiding the presence of bad thoughts within our minds; it’s about the conscious act of choosing the right path even when those unsettling thoughts emerge. It recognizes the complexity of the human psyche, acknowledging that we all have moments of inner conflict and temptation. True morality emerges when we rise above these darker impulses, exercising our free will and ethical judgment to make choices aligned with our values and principles. It’s a constant journey of growth, where we learn to navigate the complexities of our inner world while considering the impact of our actions on others and society. In those moments of moral struggle, our capacity for empathy and compassion shines through, reminding us that morality is not just a set of rules but a profound expression of our humanity.
T#7
when you are at work. never say something like
“I did this, it didn’t work. I did that, it didn’t work. I used those, it didn’t work. I don’t know what to do. I am still trying to figure out how to do.”
you will be seen as the person, who won’t be able to get things done. as you continue to show that behavior, eventually you will not be trusted even with a simple task. you may be skilled but you will be put in a position where you won’t have anything to work on to show your skills. finally, nobody wants to keep you around because you are not working.
it matters how you word your efforts.
“this is the thing, these are steps to do it. I tried this, I noticed that, so it doesn’t work as this is the issue. there are other things I tried, that and those. the issue is this and this. we will have to address them and I know what to do. there are alternatives as well, we will have to do that and that to get these… it’s in progress at this time”
I don’t know what I am gonna do. I don’t have a plan yet but I will use the above words anyway. this sounds that you know what you are doing, if it doesn’t work you have a plan. reliable person.
T#6
Emotions and rationality are processed by different parts of the brain. They dont have access to each other.
We do not have conscious access to the origins of our emotions and the moods they generate. once we feel them, all we can do is try to interpret the emotion and translate into language that we can understand but often we get this wrong. we latch onto the interpretations, that are biased, that are simple and that suit us. sometimes we remain baffled for example, we dont know why we feel sad.
the first step towards becoming rational is to understand our fundamental irrationality. understand emotions as it is.
for example we feel anger at a person x but the true source of this emotion maybe envy but envying isn’t comfortable, so we translate to something palatable like anger, dislike, resentment.
so processing the emotion of envy and working towards a resolution will help you become rational .
T#5
sometimes, i would like to see things differently. While everyone is thinking that the fish inside the aquarium sees the outside world through the barrier of glass, I am thinking the fish uses the glass as a lens not a barrier.
and to see things differently, sometimes you have to be inside the aquarium no just outside of it.
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T#1
Do not be one of the many who mistakenly believe that the ultimate form of power is independence. Power involves a relationship between people; you will always need other as allies, pawns or even as weak masters who serve as your front. The completely independent man would live in a cabin in the woods – he would have the freedom to come and go as he pleased, but he would have no power. The best you can hope for is that other will grow so dependent on you that you enjoy kind of reverse independence; their need for you frees you
T#0
Fear, often considered a negative emotion, plays a crucial role in the psychological dimension of human existence. While it may seem counterintuitive, fear is essential for our well-being and growth in various aspects of life.
First and foremost, fear serves as a powerful survival mechanism ingrained in our evolutionary history. It alerts us to potential dangers, triggering the famous “fight or flight” response. This innate reaction has safeguarded our species for millennia by preparing us to respond to threats swiftly. Without fear, we would be recklessly exposing ourselves to harm, both physically and psychologically.
Fear also contributes to personal development and growth. When we encounter situations that evoke fear, we are prompted to assess and confront our limitations. Overcoming fear can lead to increased confidence and resilience, as we learn to manage our anxieties and navigate challenging circumstances. In essence, fear acts as a catalyst for self-improvement.
On a societal level, fear can foster cooperation and empathy. Shared fears can unite communities, as they prompt individuals to come together to find solutions or provide support. The fear of a common enemy can lead to social cohesion, encouraging collaboration and the development of shared values.
Furthermore, fear encourages vigilance and caution in decision-making. It motivates us to consider potential consequences before taking actions, which can prevent impulsive and regrettable choices. In this way, fear contributes to our ability to plan and make informed decisions, enhancing our psychological well-being.
In the realm of psychology, fear is a valuable emotion that therapists often work with. It can act as a signpost, indicating areas of unresolved trauma or unacknowledged anxieties. By addressing and processing these fears, individuals can achieve personal growth and mental healing.
In conclusion, while fear may be uncomfortable and challenging, it serves a vital purpose in our psychological dimension. It keeps us safe, propels us toward personal development, fosters social bonds, and encourages thoughtful decision-making. Embracing and understanding fear, rather than avoiding it, can lead to a richer and more fulfilling life.
Power and Pelf 